Exploring a map together :: Draft

The always upwards progression

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That undefinable spark between two souls.
That moment of “… oh”.
It is a beautiful thing.

Traditionally we then do everything in our power to force that spark either to Something or to Death.

We force the climax.

Because life is short and pleasure must be extracted at all cost.

Love is scarce and if this partner cannot go with me “to the next level” I need to kill this path and find another who will.

We ask “where is this going” and “can we discuss the next step” and “I feel we are going nowhere”.

It is a place of great uncertainty and strife.

Traditionally, we are driven to always go higher up that ladder of relationship success.

A successful couple dies together. Eventually.

A connection between two people as a map

This is not my way.

I prefer to see the connection between two people as a conscious choice to “get onto a map” together.

Maps represent rich, infinite places that can never be fully explored. You can live your whole life in one country and be fulfilled. Right now I am sure there are parts of your town you have not experienced yet.

So it is when relating to another. There are infinite possibilities and futures that can be had together.

Some of them — going to a movie together — is very easy to reach.
Some of them — having a child together — is quite a bit harder.

When I feel and acknowledge that spark with another, I like to invite them “onto a map” with me.

One person said yes, and they later decided to get “off the map” with me. This is my clearest line between “friendship” and “not-only friends”.

Together, we sketch out a map of what our connection-world could look like.

With one connection, we have decided that we will start in “Brazil”. Physical intimacy was chosen to be the “Falkland Islands”: We can get to the island; but it will require effort, planning and strong intent.

Romance with them is “France”. We have been to “France”, for brief visits. It is wonderful there. We have not fully indulged and immersed ourselves, just yet.

We are navigating our world of infinite possibilities, discussing places we would like to visit next. Enjoying the place we are in right now.

And it is wonderful.